You create your world. Every day.

We create our own realities, whether we are conscious of it or not. My life today is a result of what I’ve created so far, and what I’m creating today is an indication of how my future will look like. The same applies for everyone. If you don’t like what you’ve created, you are more than powerful to change path and shape a new reality for yourself. It might sound like something obvious, but there’s a difference in thinking, believing and knowing this for a fact. 

Your life is being shaped by your thoughts, feelings and beliefs. Once you fully embrace and accept this, you will move from unconscious creation into being a conscious creator. Not only will you realize your own full power, you will also move out from being a victim of different circumstances. That is a scary thought. Why? Because one of our deepest fears is that we are powerful beyond measure. We are frightened by our light, not our darkness. What is stopping us is our fear and beliefs of our own limitations. Only you decide what you can and cannot do. As our dear Nelson Mandela put it “There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”

So how do we know what we want? Luckily we have an inner guidance system: our feelings. The more in touch you are with your feelings, the better they can guide you to what you want. When you make a decision, feel if it makes you happy, light and excited or if it makes you heavy, down and unhappy. By doing this you will always have the answer, whether it’s a question of buying a pair or shoes, saying yes to a job or getting a divorce. The feelings are telling you if you’re on the right course or not. Your body never lies, it says what words can not. The right course makes you feel good, so always follow that feeling. 

 

What you think you become, what you feel you attract, what you imagine you can create.

I can breath again!

After starting the discussion of leaving my job, I can finally breath normally when I’m at work. I haven’t been able to do that since my friend and colleague passed away in December. It might sound stupid, but I’ve only managed to do mediocre breaths while being at work. To be able to take long and deep breaths again makes me feel so good. Happy Friday everyone!

Act on love, never fear

Most of us would say that the opposite of love is hate. Hate isn’t the opposite of love, fear is. Love and fear are our two only emotions, while the spin-off from these form our feelings. Our feelings can be positive such as joyful, peaceful, alive , satisfied and thankful or negative such as irritated, angry, vulnerable, embarrassed and alone. Knowing this has helped me a lot in understanding and taking control over my feelings.

A few months ago, my ex boyfriend told me that he had met someone new. We were together for 7 years and we met when were 18 years old. In my world, I had hoped that this day would never come (very realistic thought, I know). Even though I was the one breaking up with him, my whole world fell apart. A few minutes after he had told me I was on the floor shaking, puking and crying – all at the same time. Not a pretty sight I can tell you that. For three days I was home crying non-stop. I was even crying in my sleep. I was grieving our past and all the beautiful moments we’d had together. I was grieving our future and the fact that he would never be my husband nor the father of my kids. 

Later, I realized that what I was crying for didn’t exist. I couldn’t grieve the past, because it had already happened. I couldn’t either grieve the future, because it hasn’t yet happen. There were no kids, no house, no wedding. It was all an illusion in my mind. 

For a while, I was seriously considering asking him to take me back. If I felt this bad, I had to be with him, right? Luckily, my clever sister asked me if that would be a decision based on love or on fear. That’s when it all became so clear to me; it was all based on fear. It was based on the fear that he would replace me with someone else, of me not finding someone as good as him and of “losing” the future I had imagined for us. Acting on fear is never the right choice. It wouldn’t have been right towards him or myself. Today, I’m trying to feel nothing but happiness for him.

Letting go of fear isn’t easy, but when you do it sets you free.